Updated: Jun 29, 2019
Is he the one? You might be asking yourself that question right now. Maybe you met an amazing guy and you’re not sure if you should let your heart get attached. Even though your telling your mind to take it slow and don’t get serious too fast, your heart and emotions are telling you something completely different. Well, in this series we'll discuss 1 of 5 ways you can decide if you should allow him to pursue you.
Okay, it’s so important to like the person you are with. It’s very normal to get butterflies thinking about him when you get a picture of him in your mind or when you remember something he said or did that was so cute. In the same way, he should be attracted to you. He should notice you and go out of his way to be around you. That is how you can tell he is interested in you. Liking the way someone looks is God's design. God made men and women characteristics for a reason. We were not designed in the same way. God designed woman specifically for man.
Genesis 2: 21- 23 says,
But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.23 The man said,“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh;she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
God made woman and then showed her to man. He looked at her and was pleased with what God made for him, before woman was created there wasn't a suitable companion for him. He would've been alone. Nothing God created before her was attractive or wonderfully made for him, God made woman only for him.
So, when a man sees his Good Thing walking by, he doesn't have to be convinced she is suitable for him. She is God's design for him. He's automatically attracted to her and doesn't have to be convinced to pursue her.
You want to have a man who is pursuing you and doesn't have to be convinced to do so.
However, it is important that lust is not confused with a healthy pursuit for companionship. You don’t want someone who is lusting after you. There is a big difference. Lust has to do with sex.
2 Samuel 13 illustrates a pursuit based on lust,
Amnon claimed to be in love with Tamar in the bible. He said he was so sick with love. He planned for her to come to his room and cook and eat food out of her hand. His lust for her was so strong he ended up raping her and as soon as he was done he hated her more than he felt he loved her.
2 Samuel 13:15 says,
Then Amnon hated her exceedingly, so that the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, “Arise, be gone!”
I feel this story is relevant to the topic because some men come across as being really into a woman and then as soon as they have sex, he flips the script.
Women can feel the pressure to have sex with a man in order to keep him, but that is not going to keep him. When a man is truly into in a woman he will wait as long as he has to in order to keep her. She doesn't have to be pressured to lower her standards, he will rise to the occasion in pursuit for her because she is a good thing.
This is what Jacob does when pursuing Rachel. He worked and served her father 14 years before marrying her (Genesis 29).
If he is trying to have sex with you and not trying to get to know who you are. He is not the one. Give your time to a man who wants to spend time getting to know everything wonderful about you. If he is doing that, he is a Good Catch.
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